Ever been dumped? Anyone who's been spurned will tell you it's one of the most emotionally-deflating experiences one can go through.

Your ego takes a dive; you're self-esteem takes a hit and you start to question your own worthiness. So what can you do to ease the pain? The problem with break ups is that they are usually a one-way street.

There are things you can do to get back with your ex and this is covered in step-by-step fashion in The Magic Of Making Up Review but it's actually more important to know what not to do especially if you still have strong feelings for your ex and hope for a reconciliation some time in the future.

What You Shouldn’t Do When You Get Dumped

1. Desperation is unattractive and will "drive an extra nail into the coffin."

2. Avoid arguing with your ex. Right now she/he wants you out for whatever reason and they need their space.

3. Don't try to reason with your ex. A break up decision is usually arrived at over a period of time and no amount of explaining on your part will do any good.

4. Don't phone your ex or text message her. Many fall for the trap of phoning at every opportunity. Understand, right now, they are hurting as much as you and they need time to think. If you're continually phoning or messaging them you're just confirming their decision to get you out of their life.

5. Don't contact her/his friends or family to get them to reason on your behalf. Again, understand friends and particularly family are usually loyal and you'll get them off side as well if you ask them to take sides. Who's side do you think they're going to take?

6. Avoid showing up unannounced wherever your ex likes to hang out and then act surprised to find them there. Co-incidence? You could even be labeled a stalker.

7. The Magic Of Making Up Review says avoid at all costs the temptation to try and get some sympathy from your ex by acting "wimpy." It's unattractive and makes you appear needy.