T W Jackson has thrown out a lifeline to many spurned lovers who have been dumped out of their relationship. His book, The Magic Of Making Up is fast becoming the "official guide" in winning back your ex.

There are many gems contained within the pages of The Magic Of Making Up and one of them revolves around the correct technique to apply in getting your ex to return your calls. In fact, Jackson shows you how to get your ex to also return text messages and emails but warns without a plan or strategy, then you could actually push your ex further down the road into "ex oblivion.

Jackson has the strategy in The Magic Of Making Up and explains firstly what not to do. When you've just been ejected out of your relationship initial behavioral patterns will determine whether you'll make it back in time.

Spurned lovers will often act desperate and leave messages based on a desperate plea for their ex to call them urgently making it sound like the world is about to end fabricate some sort of emergency again thinking this will force their ex to respond.

The truth is, this hardly ever works and if they do respond they'll usually react in a hostile manner telling you to grow up. It goes back to keeping a cool head in a crisis and this is something you need to do to start the making up process.

Create Curiosity And Self Interest In Your Ex

There is nothing more frustrating than being ignored by someone you still have strong feelings for. You want to hear their voice, talk to them and simply want to know what they're up to. That's only natural.

You have to be careful when trying to contact your ex during the delicate initial stages of being dumped. They won't answer your calls or emails, that's a given.

In The Magic Of Making Up, Jackson says you need to create curiosity and self interest. One without the other is like a row boat without a paddle. But using both can literally make you an irresistible force.

For example, when you leave a message say something like…"Wendy/Ryan, I really appreciate what you went out of your way to do for me. Call me, I want to thank you in person."

Powerful stuff. You've created curiosity because they're wondering what it was that made you so appreciative and they will feel good about themselves for helping you out which centers around self interest.

Before you call and leave the message though, figure out what you're going to say when they return your call. What was it that made you feel appreciative.

This can backfire on you big time if you don't have a strategy in place before you make the call. Jackson provides some great material to help you plan your strategy in The Magic Of Making Up.