When the Gentleman Becomes a Heel

You'll never get to know what type of fish you've caught until you've hooked and reeled him in. Marriage is a great eye-opener, and whatever blemishes in character you've overlooked, you will discover these in due time. The first opportunity was discovering a Zippo lighter with a cheesy engraving of undying love in your husband's back pocket.

It was surely not from you because you gave him one of those military Zippo lighters, one with a big red letter M and an iconic marine picture on chrome. That was a fairly new Zippo edition, so the piece you're looking at is definitely not yours. The piece displayed a playboy bunny, definitely not something you'd give your husband.

Now you know your husband is seeing somebody else, thanks to that personalized Zippo you discovered. The thought can be overwhelming. No wonder the tears on your pillow haven't dried up because you can't confront the bastard. Anyway, whether he denies or admits the truth, the damage has been done.

It sure does clear the air if he tells you "I'm sorry." But if he is a repeat offender, a million apologies won't bring back that old comfortable footing in your relationship.

The Chap, or the Heel

Married men, though not all, will taste the forbidden fruit of extramarital affairs. How they react to getting caught or discovered exposes the chap or cad that he is.

The man will confess to his infidelity, will be truthfully sorry about hurting you, and will do his best to make up for it. The cad, however, will [/spin]harangue|bluster[/spin] his way out of the circumstance, threaten you, and call you a green-eyed hag, which actually, you are at the moment.

Your gentlemen of a hubby will drive to enticep you back and obediently drop his shoe into the shoe basket each time he arrives from work. He'll do anything to make you feel the vindicated victor. The cad? He'll continue to do as he pleases, and tell you to polish his Doc Martens because he needs to go ASAP, just when he just came in!

A man won't actually abuse|maltreat you, but will be firmly/spin] tell you if you're going overboard with the martyr. The cad will take every opportunity to everytime he feels cranky, lousy, hungry, or if thekids are rowdy.

Definitely, the gentleman won't opt for a divorce; the cad will ask for it.