Do you want a healthier sex life? If yes, then get into the outdoors A LOT more! Here’s the basic truth of it: there are elements in the outdoors that feed the sexual aliveness of men. I realize this sounds like a stretch to some people, so stay with me here, because to have an extraordinary sexual life with your spouse, outdoor adventure can be an absolutely key component.

Guided grand canyon hikes
We, as people, didn’t evolve in office buildings. Of the last 200,000 years human beings have only been living in air-conditioned homes and heated office buildings for about 200 years. Before that most men in the world worked in the outdoors as farmers or ranchers, and before that they hunted and battled in small parties before returning to their villages and their wives. And when they returned home, they were ready for intimacy (not just sex, but emotional intimacy as well.)

Hiking adventures
John Gray (author of “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus”) has spoken at length about how men tend to “rubber band” between needing space and needing intimacy. And when women, who when they receive intimacy tend to just want more, don’t give the men that space, then the men stop choosing to come back for intimacy. When this happens, the natural rubber band pattern is broken, the man feels crowded and smothered, and the woman feels unloved. This pattern obviously doesn’t improve their sexual life, and in many instances leads to divorce.

Hiking adventures
And here’s the bottom line: to feel fully alive in life, a man needs (whether he knows it or not) to act on the wild side of his personality. The part that wants to take risks, that wants adventure, that wants to hunt and kill, that wants to explore vast amounts open wilderness. Rock climbing, rafting, hunting, mountain climbing, mountain biking, and skiing are all excellent ways to accomplish those things. And ladies, when he comes back, he’s most likely going to be in his natural pattern, and will likely be hungry for intimacy.

He doesn’t have to go out by himself. Going together to climb, ski, hike, bike, hunt, fish or do any sort of outdoor activity is a fantastic way to build connection. When my wife and I spend some time doing something really fun outdoors, we always come back much closer. It’s one of the healthiest things we can do for our intimacy. And maybe it’s on a guided tour, or with part of an outdoor club. Whatever and however you do it, the key is (as Nike says) JUST DO IT!