Making constant phone calls..sending a rash of text messages and emails..hanging out where your ex likes to hang out..speaking to your ex's family and friends and seeing if they can make them see some sense and return to you…does this sound familiar to you.

If you've been dumped then we're here to tell you it's one of the most emotionally challenging periods of your life you can go through.

But the antics mentioned above smack of panic and desperation and these two emotions are like throwing jet fuel on an already raging fire. It just worsens the situation. And you need to keep your emotions in check.

In The Magic Of Making Up, T W Jackson makes it plain and simple; take time out, get your emotions under control and when you do, then it's time to start winning back your ex.

You see, an irrational mind is ugly, no one wants to deal with someone in a panicked and desperate state, not even their close friends so imagine how your ex is going to perceive it.

5 Secrets To Winning Your Ex Back

The actual truth is, it's not so much learning any special secrets when it comes back to winning back your ex, if there is still any type of feelings there then The Magic Of Making Up is one resource which can help you turn things back in your favor.

Meanwhile, here are five things you should take serious note of before starting the reconciliation process.

1. Take time off. That is, walk away and take a break. Okay, if you are in a position to do this, take a required vacation.

2. By taking a break, we mean taking a rest from your relationship. Avoid things like trying to convince them they've made the wrong decision, emailing them, calling them, text messaging them constantly and presenting yourself at places they usually like to hang out.

3. If you are in a situation where you interact with your ex on a daily basis through work or through having kids together don't fall into the trap of ignoring them. Be courteous and by simply acknowledging them with a "hello how are you" but avoid being drawn into any confrontation.

4. Consider the feelings of your ex. Yes, this is hard but you need too. This is just as tough for them. They also need this time to clear their mind. By allowing them to have a little space, it shows maturity on your part.

5. Avoid looking for self pity, either with your ex or their friends. This will create a scenario where you will be seen as needy and this is an unattractive image. Things like telling your ex you can't live without them or you'll do something drastic if they don't take you back.

Just put yourself in their position; if they came to you with the same attitude would it be attractive to you? The key to winning back your ex is going to rely heavily on how rational you are during the first few weeks of your break up.