Predictability is a major issue in relationships and if you're in the process of getting your ex back then keep in mind, apart from infidelity, sameness may have contributed to your break up.

Routine can be good but in relationships, sooner or later, it can become stale and without the injection of occasional surprises it will almost become inevitable that one or the other partner will tire of it.

So while you may have done all the right things after being dumped and given your ex the time they need to reassess the relationship bear in mind you also need to look at your pattern of behavious and do your own assessment.

Your chances of getting your ex back could very well rest on this issue without you even being aware of it. Your ex may be looking for something a little different when you present yourself for "re-evaluation so if you are determined you're not going to make any changes then this could well prove to be the "final nail in the coffin" for your ex.

Examples Of Same Routines

For example, your dress sense. If you liked to wear a particular style of clothing whether it be good dress sense or bad then that may have be something which eventually contributed to your relationship's demise. You could have become attached to a particular pair of trousers, shirt, sweater or cardigan.

If your ex continually suggested you go out and get yourself some new clothes but you resisted or just kept putting it off then mark this down as one of the reasons he/she may have become fed up with you.

But how can something so trivial contribute to a break up? It's not so much that one particular thing but a combination. Freshness in a relationship can be as trivial as a new piece of clothing occasionally. If you're desperate in getting back with your ex then make this one of your priorities.

Are You On The Nose?

Smell can be another major issue. When the relationship starts to wane then bad memories become linked to certain smells and dare we say it, sights. The sight could very well have been you but there is a strong chance that it may be linked to the smell of a scented fragrance you may have worn or it could have been a smoking issue.

The message here is if you're even half serious in getting your ex back then presenting yourself without making some changes to your appearance of behavior is probably not going to "get your leg back in the door."

It's all about starting on fresh ground, yes, even as if you were to meet for the first time again but if you turn up wearing that same tattered old shirt or with a cigar in your mouth, then chances are you won't get off the batting mound.